You Don't Need More Time. You Need More Attention.
There is a kind of tired that comes from working hard all day and still wondering what moved. The calendar was full. The inbox refilled. Evening arrives and you know you were busy. Whether you got further is harder to say.
Mridu Parikh wrote six words on her napkin. You don't need more time. You need more ATTENTION. She is a productivity and performance coach, speaker, author of Accomplish It, host of the Productivity on Purpose podcast, and founder of Life Is Organized. Known as The Stress Squasher, she has spent more than 3,000 hours coaching and training leaders.
Her answer is not a better calendar. It is noticing that most of us already have the hours and are spending them on work that looks responsible and produces nothing. The thing you keep moving to tomorrow is usually the thing that matters.
Inspired by Paper Napkin Wisdom Episode 407 with Mridu Parikh.
The Sunday morning her husband called it a hobby
Mridu was early in her entrepreneurial life, raising two young children, building a professional home-organizing business. She did what most founders do. Marketing, finances, networking, the website, the SEO. All of it.
One Sunday morning she was in her office. Her husband was taking the kids to a birthday party she was missing again. He walked in with the four words that never bode well.
We need to talk.
Then he asked the question she was not ready for. "When are you turning this hobby into a business?"
She almost lunged across the room. Before she could get angry the tears came. Can't you see how hard I'm working? The marketing, the finance, the website, the kids.
His response was one short question. "But what about the sales?"
She didn't get it in the moment. She didn't talk to him for two days. When she came around, she said it was the question that turned everything. All that blood, sweat and tears, and she was missing the thing that mattered most. Because if there were no sales, there was no business.
Here's the thing about that story for someone who has already built something real. The hours were never short. Where they went was the problem. And both kinds of work look productive from the outside.
Organized is not the same as productive
Mridu was organized as a child. Stuffed animals color coordinated by size on the bed every morning. Two highly type A parents. College, then marketing, then a corporate career, then a move from New York to Nashville that ended her job and opened a question about what she actually wanted to do.
She kept coming back to organizing. This was before anyone knew what a professional organizer was. No Marie Kondo, no container store. She helped people with closets, pantries, garages.
And she was very organized. She was not the most productive person. Those are two different people inside the same tidy office.
She puts it this way: the foundational principles are the same, applied in a different environment. If she can organize your pantry, she can organize your calendar, your priorities, your systems. What productivity asks for on top of that is a choice. She is careful about the word important here, because what looks important is rarely it and what feels important is rarely it either. Six hours in your inbox can feel great, three hours on Instagram can feel great, and neither one produces the result that matters.
It took her roughly two years of her own learning before things changed in her business and her life. Prioritizing, boundaries, delegation, systems, getting her team organized. Then she looked up and thought she could not be the only entrepreneur struggling with this.
For a leader running a mature business, the gap widens with success. The more the company grows, the more things could reasonably occupy the owner. Organized is how you handle the volume. Productive is deciding what the volume is for.
Start with what you're procrastinating
Ask her where to begin when everything feels equally urgent and she doesn't start with a system. She starts with avoidance.
"Typically the things we should be focusing on is the things that we're procrastinating."
The thing you keep pushing is usually the hardest. The most strategic thinking, the most problem-solving, the furthest outside the comfort zone. In business it clusters around strategy, systemizing, networking, sales. Personally it tends to be the workout, the walk, the journaling, the call.
We know intuitively what it is. I should be doing that. I should have made that sales call.
And then there is the masquerade. Mridu named it directly. Working on sales is not tinkering with the website, the logo, the SEO, or hiring someone at that moment. It is picking up the phone, going out to a networking group, knocking on a door. I called that shoe leather in our conversation, how much shoe leather you wear out going from customer to customer. It is usually far more basic than we let ourselves believe.
More hours will not fix it on their own. She finds five hours in a client's week and those five hours get eaten alive, because there is no shortage of things to do. The hours fill. What you have decided deserves to fill them is what sits underneath.
The Power Hour, and the 20 hours hiding in a month
For about 90% of the people Mridu has worked with, if the hard thing is not the first thing, it probably isn't happening. Willpower and energy are finite. Later in the day you are more distracted, more demanded upon, less able to choose.
So she protects the first hour. She calls it the Power Hour. When an hour is impossible, the Power Thirty. Deliberate, intentional, focused on the priority that matters most. Ideally one personal and one professional. The personal one might be planning the day, writing down what you're after, a walk, journaling. The professional one is the sales call, the networking, the strategy, the thing you've been putting off.
She is not precious about which hour. Some people crank at ten in the morning. Some at eight at night. Go with your energy. But she is firm on one point: if you know it's not going to happen later, don't pretend you're going to do it later.
For anyone thinking there is no way to squeeze in another hour, with clients and kids and dogs and people depending on you, her answer is that ambitious people solve problems for a living. Go to bed half an hour earlier. Trade the carpool. Make dinners the night before. Tell your team that from 8:30 to 9:30 nobody emails and nobody books a meeting, because that is everyone's time for their top priority.
Then the arithmetic. One hour a day, five weekdays, over a month. Twenty hours. Close your eyes and pick the one goal, professional or personal, that has been waiting. Twenty focused, intentional, deliberate hours aimed at it.
I call that an anchor action. One commitment you protect through a particular season, rather than trying to change everything at once. The power is in the repetition, not the intensity. We overestimate what we can do in a month and underestimate what we can do in a year, and that mismatch is exactly why the big burst of energy wanes.
Your team is reading your attention, not your values
Leaders ask Mridu a version of the same question constantly. How do I get this person on my team to be more focused? How do I change that habit in my spouse?
Her answer is blunt. You can't change anybody. You can only change yourself. So be the mentor, be the guide, be the leader. Let people see you take control of your time, see you hold a boundary, see you make a plan and follow through. They will respect it, and over time some of them will model it. And if they don't, at least you have a lived example to have the conversation around.
We are modeling something either way. An organization can say family comes first, and if its leader is emailing and texting on Saturday and Sunday the team has learned the real rule. Same with attention. If you are reactive, always in reaction mode, Mridu will pretty much guarantee the entire team is operating that way. That frenzy feeds their energy. That becomes the culture.
The opposite spreads too, at the same speed.
Where the attention actually leaks
Asked where most of us lose it, she named three.
Technology. Hands down number one. The watch, the phone, the laptop, the constant notifications and emails popping up. Her estimate: cutting out a lot of that noise would remove something like 70% of our distractions.
Environment. A cluttered space does something people rarely think about. You are writing an email, thinking of the next words, and your eyes look up. It takes an eighth of a second. You see a thing, grab it, send that off, and now you've abandoned what you were doing. Sitting in the discomfort of thinking for a minute is harder than jumping to the next task.
People. Slack, email, phone, the person sitting right next to you. Usually a sign of missing boundaries and missing team practices about when someone can be interrupted.
None of them looks serious alone. Together they produce a day of working all day and feeling like you got nothing done.
Productivity as a feeling, and belief before evidence
Mridu defines productivity differently than most. She does not count tasks completed or hours logged. "It's the feeling you have when you get the results you want." As the day closes she measures how she feels and whether she is getting the results she wants.
I asked her whether you feel the benefit before you see it, and she agreed. The sales may not arrive yet. The systems may not be built yet. But you will feel it. I finally did that thing I know I should be doing. I finally put time into the step I've been procrastinating for weeks.
It can be small. Getting to the gym. Calling your mom on the way home. Having the hard conversation you've been dodging. Answering the one email you kept skipping. Picking up the piece of paper that has been sitting on the bottom step for three weeks. A weight lifts. That relief is the motivator for the next day, and the next.
Ask her what changed across the whole arc and she does not lead with revenue. Her perspective changed, and her alignment in her life changed with it. She talks about demeanor, mood, ambition. The revenue goal is secondary to the person she became: more confident, higher integrity with herself, more self-belief.
I believe belief comes before evidence. Every time you follow through on something that mattered, you hand yourself another reason to trust that you will act next time. That trust makes the next hard decision slightly easier to face.
When I asked her who she wanted to appreciate, remembering John Ruhlin's napkin that what you appreciate appreciates, she named her husband. The same man who asked about the hobby is the one who believed in her before she believed in herself, and saw things in her she couldn't see yet. Which gives that Sunday morning a different shape entirely.
What to do with this in the next week
Pick one of these, not five.
Name the outcome. One business result that matters most right now. Then look at last week honestly. How much of your effort went at that outcome directly, and how much went to preparing, organizing and planning around it?
Find the avoidance. What keeps sliding to tomorrow? That is your candidate, and it will not be the thing you most want to do.
Book the Power Thirty. The first suitable thirty minutes of your workday, held with the seriousness you would give an important customer meeting. If mornings genuinely aren't yours, pick the hour that is, and commit to it rather than using the preference as cover.
Remove one leak. Look back at your last real work session and notice what interrupted you most. Technology is the likeliest answer. Change the condition before the next session rather than relying on willpower.
Say the boundary out loud. Tell your team the hour you are protecting and why. Then protect it, because they are learning the rule from what you do and not from what you announce.
Check the feeling, not the list. Before you close the day, ask whether you gave attention to the thing that deserved it most. Notice how that answer lands, regardless of how many small items are still open.
Before you go looking for more time, there is a harder question worth sitting with. What is already important enough to deserve your attention, and still hasn't received it?
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